MOTIVATIONAL TIPS FOR AUTISTIC TEENS
Are you a teenager who is recently diagnosed with autism? Already feeling like you’re the odd one out in your family, classroom or group of companions, did this sense of alienation increased after knowing about your autism condition? Did your relationship with others change for the worse after revealing your autism diagnosis? Have you ever been treated badly because of your diagnosis that you find it better to keep the problem to yourself? Did you ever feel like your life won’t get better anymore now that everybody knows about your autistic condition? Do you feel completely lost not knowing what to do with your life ahead of you, and do all the negativities around you somehow dictate you to give up on your fight for a better life? Being a teenager confronted with the truth about autism, it may be normal to feel and experience all the things mentioned above, but one thing’s for certain: this surely isn’t the end of the road for you. From acceptance, you will start to learn that there’s more to life than just lingering on the bad side of your autism diagnosis. If you teach yourself to be strong enough in dealing with your recent autism diagnosis, you will realize that it’s just another hurdle that you must overcome to be a better and stronger version of you. Here are some sources of motivation that may prove helpful in getting yourself back on your feet.
You are not really alone in this fight.
It is common for autistic teens to feel like they carry the weight of the whole world on their back, thinking that there’s no one who really understands how they feel and cares about their future. Aside from your family who must love you unconditionally, there are actually more than a dozen people who share the same challenges and difficulties who are more than capable of understanding what you’ve been through. Finding one in your school or city may not be easy, but it surely isn’t impossible. As a matter of fact, there may already be autism communities and organizations existing in your area where you can find a sense of belongingness. At present, the number of people diagnosed with autism is more or less one percent of the total world population, which leaves us with around 75 million people on the spectrum today. That in itself is a great number of individuals already, which increases your chances of meeting one in your locality. Add to that the power of social media, you can easily search for autism communities on the web and join helpful discussions together with other autistic people from all over the world. You will not only feel welcomed and understood but also helped and supported when it comes to your autism-related problems. It would really help a lot if you try to connect with other people in the spectrum, and today you’re given more than a single means to achieve that.
Don’t let others define your true self and dictate your approach in dealing with autism
When other people start saying negative things about you because of your autism diagnosis, do not let yourself believe all of those statements. One of the biggest mistakes you can possibly make is to forget about the good things that have happened in your life and replace everything with what other people think about you. If you don’t have a close friend, it is your family who knows the real you and their thoughts and opinions about yourself should matter more than those coming from strangers and insignificant people in your community. Remember all the good memories and positive things that you hold dear to your heart and take courage out of it.
In the same way, it is good to listen to the advice of other people who show genuine concern about how you handle your autism challenges but taking in too much of other’s views and suggestions may not be healthy for your progress in dealing with autism features. Some people might recommend that you join this therapy treatment or that program but if you think you’re not comfortable with these undertakings, then it’s much better to discount the propositions. It is important to remember that autism is a spectrum disorder, which means that people with the same diagnosis may have different kinds of response and attitude toward dealing with their condition. Simply trust yourself and learn from your own introspection about the kind of treatment you may want to consider undergoing. You may do the whole thing at a fast pace or a slower one, but the thing that matters most is the result.
School-related issues won’t last forever
It may be hard for you dealing with all the pressure and troubles in school but you must not let this stage of your life ruin your future. Bullies and other school-related crises may hit you hard, but you must never back out of the fight. If you can’t avoid undesirable people and situations, don’t be afraid to ask for help. Be smart in your approach and think ahead with a dash of positivity. Remind yourself that once you leave school, there are more important things to worry and be happy about, and most of the school stuff you think mattered will eventually become nonessential as you grow older.
Don’t take all the blame for yourself
When things go wrong, many teenagers have the tendency to self-pity or self-blame which oftentimes aggravates the issue instead of finding a solution to it. Being autistic may greatly influence your relationship with others, but it doesn’t mean that you have to blame yourself for any problem that would arise. Not being able to comprehend abstract views, using the whole time talking about your interest, finding it hard to change routines and plans and many other autism-features may cause one or more persons to get offended by what you did or didn’t do. However, it is your disorder and not yourself that should be pointed out for these problems, and it is totally wrong to take the whole blame. If you honestly think that you did nothing wrong, then don’t overthink it and worry about it too much. There are even instances when the people around you are the ones to be blamed, especially if they had known about your disorder but didn’t make any effort to meet you halfway.