MANAGING YOUR CHILD’S BEHAVIORAL ISSUES
There is a big difference in the way autistic children misbehave as compared to typical ones. Parents would say that normal kids exhibit bad behaviour or tantrums normally because they cannot get what they want in most situations. Parents just don’t give in to these outbursts to prevent spoiling their kids in the process. However, in the case of autistic children, the cause of these temperamental surges and unpredictable actions are specific needs or issues that they find difficult to communicate to others. These external problems should be addressed by parents in order to calm the child and avoid further complications. But how do you manage these certain situations and make your home as peaceful as possible for your autistic child? There are key elements in managing your autistic child’s behaviour issues, and among them are creativity, perceptiveness, and patience.
Get to Know Your Child Better
Even after having done everything for your child, the behavioural improvement that you will see in the days to come are primarily affected by his or her innate personality makeup. Even in children, certain attitudes and segments of personality will begin to show, and it is important that parents have knowledge of these inherent traits in order to effectively choose the best approach in training their autistic children to behave like normal individuals. What better way to learn about your child’s emotional and psychological foundations that to spend more time with them, to be able to observe them in a closer and deeper perspective.
Detect the Root Causes of Your Child’s Behaviour
There are different types of autistic personalities that emerge with response to the specific symptoms of their disorders. Those that are always irritable may be suffering from oversensitivity to sensory inputs, such as sound, light, and smell. There are also those who are compulsive, wanting to touch, taste, feel or smell certain objects or places with high enthusiasm. Understanding this dimension of your child’s disorder can help you guess what they want or not want, and address the stimuli more appropriately. If you have reduced any source of sensory input, or conversely give your child the much needed sensory input to satisfy their craving and they still end up crying and restless, that is a sign that there is another problem you need to detect. But what are the ways of removing and providing these sensory inputs? Here is a short list to help you out.
Removing Sensory Input:
- Transfer the child to a separate location like a room where any form of sensory input is kept at a minimum.
- Give your child a set of toys specifically designed for autistic individuals to distract them from external sensory sources.
- If the situation cannot be directly altered, look for alternative solutions, such as providing ear plugs, face masks, or sunglasses.
Providing Sensory Input:
- Give your child one big and tight embrace or let him hug a huge stuffed toy.
- Roll your child on a blanket like a spring roll or have them wear thick and heavy garments.
- Squeeze your child in between sofa cushions.
Try to Build Your Expectations of Your Child’s Behavioural Development
It is unreasonable for parents to expect their children, even normal ones, to immediately exhibit the appropriate manners and behaviours in just one or two training sessions. As much as possible, remind yourself to appreciate the smallest signs of accomplishments. An hour of behaved breakfast in the dining room may seem a bit hard to accomplish at first, so start the goal for 15 minutes, then another 15-minute interval after every couple of days. It is important that parents understand why their autistic child behave in such ways, but it is also equally essential that they know how much to expect from them to avoid frustrations and disappointments from getting in the way of your child’s development.
Channel Your Child’s Behavioural Issues on Fun and Meaningful Things
Think of the best possible practices or activities that can serve as the outlet for your child’s behavioural problems. For instance, if your autistic child really likes spinning, take them to a playground roundabout or install one outside of your house. If your kid would rather crawl or glide on the ground, have them play on slides, or take them to a gym that offers rock climbing exercises if your child has great tendency to climb on top of furniture or elevated spaces.
Care Less About the Eyes of the Public
Your child’s repetitive behaviour problem can’t just go away overnight which means that you have to get accustomed to it while it persists. This commitment may be easy to do in private locations, such as in your backyard or inside the house. However, it is not easy to pretend that you are not offended by judgmental eyes while you and your child are in public places such as in the park or in the supermarket. Other kids or even parents will start glaring at your child and possibly make their own opinion out of it, but you should always try to calm down and remind yourself that these sort of things don’t really matter to you or your child because they are not the ones paying your bills and taxes.
Get the Fun Out of It
Being with your child and monitoring their behaviour shouldn’t really be a problem for you as a parent. It may be draining and frustrating sometimes, but it is your child’s welfare after all that you are trying to take good care of. Aside from that, even autistic children also need to feel that their parents are also spending quality time with them. So instead of feeling tired about it, use your creativity to make your training activities and time together worthwhile for the both of you. You can hop on and join your child in the trampoline, or you can make casual tickles to make them laugh. There are always opportunities to choose the brighter side of things.